Mr. Hershel Wertheimer | Executive Director of Hamaspik Kings County
I’ll just go over and talk to him. He won’t bite. I’m going…. Ugh! Why am I blushing? Let me walk over to the buffet and get a drink, so I look casual. Wait. Maybe I should go directly to him? He’s almost leaving! But…what will he think? That I just wanted to say hi?
Actually, why do I want to go over to him? Oh yeah, I want to be friendly with him. He seems like a great person to know. But who says I need to push myself for this? True, I don’t have to, but if I don’t push myself a little, I’ll never talk to anybody! I must go over to him!
“Careful, that cup is overflowing!”
Oops.
***
You’ve just gotten a taste of what it’s like to cope with social anxiety disorder (SAD), an issue that plagues roughly 7% of Americans.
Social anxiety disorder (feeling angst/anxiety among other people) is one of the most common problems in the world of mental health. People who are dealing with social anxiety only experience anxiety when they’re with other people, such as when going to an event or wedding. Some even have difficulty in small groups.
People are social creatures, and a large part of our lives revolves around relationships. This makes it that much harder to cope with social anxiety. While it might impact just one area of a person’s life, it will present itself multiple times each day.
Social anxiety symptoms
Below is a partial list of symptoms that can help you identify if you’re dealing with social anxiety:
Fear or angst before a social situation in which the person thinks he might be judged or observed by others, such as when having a conversation with or meeting strangers, eating or drinking in front of others, speaking in a public setting, etc.
Fear that one will behave in a way that will cause others to judge him negatively and lead to embarrassment. Often, the anxiety is about dealing with social anxiety itself, which means the person is afraid his anxiety will be obvious and will cause him embarrassment.
Actively avoiding situations that cause anxiety (for example, avoiding going to a wedding), and when he must go, feeling intense fear and angst.
Anxiety that’s disproportionate to the “social risk” that the situation poses (it’s normal to feel nervous before giving a speech, but not before going to PTA).
Symptoms that last for at least six months.
Anxiety that negatively impacts a person’s ability to function.
Recognizing these symptoms early can be the first step toward managing social anxiety and finding the right support to navigate social situations with more confidence.
Social anxiety in children
Social anxiety in children can sometimes be mistaken for general shyness or hesitation around adults. However, a key distinction is that a child is typically diagnosed with social anxiety only if they experience persistent fear or anxiety when interacting with peers their own age.
It’s not just about avoiding adults or unfamiliar environments—it’s the distress in everyday social situations with classmates, friends, or group activities that signal a deeper challenge.
Unlike adults, children with social anxiety often express their discomfort in different ways. Instead of verbalizing their fear, they may cry, throw tantrums, have trouble sleeping, avoid eye contact, or refuse to speak in public situations. This can make social anxiety in children harder to identify, as their behaviors might be misunderstood as defiance or introversion.
Social anxiety in teens
Social anxiety in teens can become even more pronounced due to increased social pressures and heightened self-awareness. Unlike younger children, teens with social anxiety are more likely to avoid social situations altogether—skipping school events, dreading group projects, or steering clear of making phone calls and initiating conversations.
They may also develop negative thought patterns about how others perceive them, fearing embarrassment, judgment, or rejection in social settings.
Social anxiety in teens often manifests in physical symptoms as well, such as excessive sweating, nausea, blushing, or even panic attacks before or during social interactions. Many teens with social anxiety struggle with participating in class, making new friends, or even eating in front of others, as they feel an intense fear of being watched or judged.
Social anxiety by the numbers
Approximately 7% of the US population suffers from social anxiety. The condition is more prevalent in children and teens than in adults, with 2-5% of the adult population affected. In many parts of the world, the prevalence is lower; for instance, in Europe, only 2.3% of the population is dealing with social anxiety.
Women are more prone to this condition than men, with a ratio of 2.2 women for every 1.5 men. Symptoms typically appear between the ages of 8 and 15 in 75% of those affected, and it rarely begins in adulthood.
Often, those who suffer from social anxiety were shy and reserved as young children, and their shyness gradually evolved into anxiety as they grew older. In some cases, the disorder develops as a direct result of difficult social experiences, such as bullying.
How to cope with social anxiety
According to the research, only half of the people with social anxiety seek treatment. Unfortunately, many of them mistakenly believe this is who they are, and that there’s no way for them to change.
When social anxiety in children presents, parents sometimes believe that they’ll outgrow it, while the children continue to suffer in silence. Similarly, social anxiety in teens can often be overlooked, with behaviors like avoiding social events or struggling with class participation dismissed as typical teenage moodiness.
Social anxiety in children and teens is treated with talk therapy, with cognitive behavioral exposure therapy showing the most promising results. In many cases, medication is prescribed as well. The earlier social anxiety in children is identified, the more effective the intervention can be, helping them develop the confidence to navigate social interactions.
If you think you or your child might be suffering from social anxiety, seek out a professional who will be able to guide you toward overcoming social anxiety and attaining healing.
Overcoming social anxiety in real life
Motty Solomon, LMHC, Sipuk’s clinical director, describes how this disorder plays out in real life. He shares the experiences of a recent client dealing with social anxiety (all details have been changed):
When Yanky* used to enter a wedding hall, he’d immediately feel overwhelmed. He disliked going to weddings and tried to avoid them; when he had to attend, he found it very challenging. He never took the time to consider why it was so hard for him, he just knew that going to weddings caused him anxiety.
When we started to dig deeper together, we realized that the main element that bothered him when entering a hall wasn’t the food, the decor, or even the music. It was the people.
Inexplicably, he felt as if he needed to impress every participant. When he said mazel tov, it needed to be done in a way that wouldn’t make anyone think less of him. When he entered the ballroom, he needed to find a seat immediately so that nobody would notice that he didn’t yet have a seat.
All of this weighed heavily on him.
Once COVID hit, he began to realize how much easier his life was without having to interact with others regularly. It was such a relief for him that even once life got back to normal, he continued to stay at home as much as he could.
At this point, it was obvious that something needed to change, and his wife insisted he seek help.
Throughout our weekly therapy sessions, we worked on overcoming social anxiety, and slowly made progress. We finally reached the point when Yanky said, “I never knew how much I missed out in life by avoiding people!” Now weddings are no longer a fearful burden, but something he enjoys.
Wrapping up
Social anxiety can feel isolating, but the truth is, it’s more common than most people realize—and it’s treatable. Whether it’s social anxiety in children, where symptoms show up as tantrums or freezing in social settings, or social anxiety in teens, where avoidance behaviors become more pronounced, recognizing the signs is the first step toward healing.
Social anxiety doesn’t define you, and it doesn’t have to dictate your life. So, reach out to Hamaspik today and see how we can help!
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Moderate Sensory Sensitivity
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High Sensory Sensitivity
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Very High Sensory Sensitivity
0-15: Low Sensory Sensitivity
Interpretation: Your child exhibits low levels of sensory sensitivity, usually falling within the typical developmental range.
Recommendation: Generally not a cause for concern. If you have specific worries or notice a sudden change in behavior, consult a healthcare professional for a comprehensive evaluation.
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Low Sensory Sensitivity
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Moderate Sensory Sensitivity
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High Sensory Sensitivity
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Very High Sensory Sensitivity
16-30: Moderate Sensory Sensitivity
Interpretation: Your child displays moderate sensory sensitivity, which may warrant intervention.
Recommendation: Consider sensory-friendly activities, sensory sensitive toys, or sensory sensitive clothing like noise-canceling headphones and weighted blankets to improve comfort. If symptoms persist, consult health care professionals.
0-15
Low Sensory Sensitivity
16-30
Moderate Sensory Sensitivity
31-45
High Sensory Sensitivity
46-60
Very High Sensory Sensitivity
31-45: High Sensory Sensitivity
Interpretation: Your child has higher than average sensory sensitivity that may interfere with daily functioning.
Recommendation: Seek a detailed evaluation by health care professionals for sensory integration therapy options and potential environmental modifications.
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Low Sensory Sensitivity
16-30
Moderate Sensory Sensitivity
31-45
High Sensory Sensitivity
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Very High Sensory Sensitivity
46-60: Very High Sensory Sensitivity
Interpretation: Your child demonstrates high levels of sensory sensitivity that could significantly interfere with daily life.
Recommendation: If your child displays this level of sensory sensitivity, it’s highly recommended that you consult with a health care professional for a multi-disciplinary assessment. You will probably be directed towards early intervention programs and specialized support.
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Mr. Hershel Wertheimer | Executive Director of Hamaspik Kings County
I’ll just go over and talk to him. He won’t bite. I’m going…. Ugh! Why am I blushing? Let me walk over to the buffet and get a drink, so I look casual. Wait. Maybe I should go directly to him? He’s almost leaving! But…what will he think? That I just wanted to say hi?
Actually, why do I want to go over to him? Oh yeah, I want to be friendly with him. He seems like a great person to know. But who says I need to push myself for this? True, I don’t have to, but if I don’t push myself a little, I’ll never talk to anybody! I must go over to him!
“Careful, that cup is overflowing!”
Oops.
***
You’ve just gotten a taste of what it’s like to cope with social anxiety disorder (SAD), an issue that plagues roughly 7% of Americans.
Social anxiety disorder (feeling angst/anxiety among other people) is one of the most common problems in the world of mental health. People who are dealing with social anxiety only experience anxiety when they’re with other people, such as when going to an event or wedding. Some even have difficulty in small groups.
People are social creatures, and a large part of our lives revolves around relationships. This makes it that much harder to cope with social anxiety. While it might impact just one area of a person’s life, it will present itself multiple times each day.
Social anxiety symptoms
Below is a partial list of symptoms that can help you identify if you’re dealing with social anxiety:
Recognizing these symptoms early can be the first step toward managing social anxiety and finding the right support to navigate social situations with more confidence.
Social anxiety in children
Social anxiety in children can sometimes be mistaken for general shyness or hesitation around adults. However, a key distinction is that a child is typically diagnosed with social anxiety only if they experience persistent fear or anxiety when interacting with peers their own age.
It’s not just about avoiding adults or unfamiliar environments—it’s the distress in everyday social situations with classmates, friends, or group activities that signal a deeper challenge.
Unlike adults, children with social anxiety often express their discomfort in different ways. Instead of verbalizing their fear, they may cry, throw tantrums, have trouble sleeping, avoid eye contact, or refuse to speak in public situations. This can make social anxiety in children harder to identify, as their behaviors might be misunderstood as defiance or introversion.
Social anxiety in teens
Social anxiety in teens can become even more pronounced due to increased social pressures and heightened self-awareness. Unlike younger children, teens with social anxiety are more likely to avoid social situations altogether—skipping school events, dreading group projects, or steering clear of making phone calls and initiating conversations.
They may also develop negative thought patterns about how others perceive them, fearing embarrassment, judgment, or rejection in social settings.
Social anxiety in teens often manifests in physical symptoms as well, such as excessive sweating, nausea, blushing, or even panic attacks before or during social interactions. Many teens with social anxiety struggle with participating in class, making new friends, or even eating in front of others, as they feel an intense fear of being watched or judged.
Social anxiety by the numbers
Approximately 7% of the US population suffers from social anxiety. The condition is more prevalent in children and teens than in adults, with 2-5% of the adult population affected. In many parts of the world, the prevalence is lower; for instance, in Europe, only 2.3% of the population is dealing with social anxiety.
Women are more prone to this condition than men, with a ratio of 2.2 women for every 1.5 men. Symptoms typically appear between the ages of 8 and 15 in 75% of those affected, and it rarely begins in adulthood.
Often, those who suffer from social anxiety were shy and reserved as young children, and their shyness gradually evolved into anxiety as they grew older. In some cases, the disorder develops as a direct result of difficult social experiences, such as bullying.
How to cope with social anxiety
According to the research, only half of the people with social anxiety seek treatment. Unfortunately, many of them mistakenly believe this is who they are, and that there’s no way for them to change.
When social anxiety in children presents, parents sometimes believe that they’ll outgrow it, while the children continue to suffer in silence. Similarly, social anxiety in teens can often be overlooked, with behaviors like avoiding social events or struggling with class participation dismissed as typical teenage moodiness.
Social anxiety in children and teens is treated with talk therapy, with cognitive behavioral exposure therapy showing the most promising results. In many cases, medication is prescribed as well. The earlier social anxiety in children is identified, the more effective the intervention can be, helping them develop the confidence to navigate social interactions.
If you think you or your child might be suffering from social anxiety, seek out a professional who will be able to guide you toward overcoming social anxiety and attaining healing.
Overcoming social anxiety in real life
Motty Solomon, LMHC, Sipuk’s clinical director, describes how this disorder plays out in real life. He shares the experiences of a recent client dealing with social anxiety (all details have been changed):
When Yanky* used to enter a wedding hall, he’d immediately feel overwhelmed. He disliked going to weddings and tried to avoid them; when he had to attend, he found it very challenging. He never took the time to consider why it was so hard for him, he just knew that going to weddings caused him anxiety.
When we started to dig deeper together, we realized that the main element that bothered him when entering a hall wasn’t the food, the decor, or even the music. It was the people.
Inexplicably, he felt as if he needed to impress every participant. When he said mazel tov, it needed to be done in a way that wouldn’t make anyone think less of him. When he entered the ballroom, he needed to find a seat immediately so that nobody would notice that he didn’t yet have a seat.
All of this weighed heavily on him.
Once COVID hit, he began to realize how much easier his life was without having to interact with others regularly. It was such a relief for him that even once life got back to normal, he continued to stay at home as much as he could.
At this point, it was obvious that something needed to change, and his wife insisted he seek help.
Throughout our weekly therapy sessions, we worked on overcoming social anxiety, and slowly made progress. We finally reached the point when Yanky said, “I never knew how much I missed out in life by avoiding people!” Now weddings are no longer a fearful burden, but something he enjoys.
Wrapping up
Social anxiety can feel isolating, but the truth is, it’s more common than most people realize—and it’s treatable. Whether it’s social anxiety in children, where symptoms show up as tantrums or freezing in social settings, or social anxiety in teens, where avoidance behaviors become more pronounced, recognizing the signs is the first step toward healing.
Social anxiety doesn’t define you, and it doesn’t have to dictate your life. So, reach out to Hamaspik today and see how we can help!